What Did You Leave Behind?
Nothing is more important in life than becoming the people we are meant to be. Our heartfelt interests and core abilities are precious gifts. That’s why it’s so important to ask yourself whether, in earlier chapters of your life story, you left behind parts of yourSELF that you should reclaim.
So many of us have done just that. In my work as a life coach and counselor I hear, again and again, that my clients abandoned sincere and potentially very powerful dreams and talents because they lacked support for them or because they were living through stressful events that obscured them.
How about you? Did you have an interest or ability that you “discarded” or “buried?” Maybe it was an interest in becoming a politician or painter or poet or inventor or healer? Maybe that interest was made fun of. Maybe it seemed like light years from the financial struggles your family was encountering. Maybe it didn’t fit the “narrative” your mother or father had for how your life would unfold. If you can reflect upon the early chapters of your life story and can recall an early, but deferred dream or talent, now could be the time to reclaim that part of yourself.
Does this really happen? Absolutely. I have worked with business people who have entered the political arena or written magnificent books—but only after being encouraged to look back at their lives and unearth these buried parts of themselves. I have worked with a teacher who embarked on a career as a screenwriter. I have worked with a longshoreman who embarked on a career as a public speaker and poet. I have worked with a physical therapist who is at work changing the entire scope of her profession to embrace the impact of posture on mood. I have worked with a lawyer who became a movie producer. I have worked with an investment advisor who became a sports agent. These are just a few examples. The list could go on and on. Should you be on this list? Should you be adding arrows to the quiver of arrows you have to hit the bullseyes in life that matter to you?
How should you start? Once you identify the talents you have yet to tap into, take one step. I have said this before. Everything starts with a single step. Take a course. Buy a canvas. Get a pen and a journal. Buy a screenwriting program for your laptop. Tell three friends about what you want to try, in order to make it real. Listen to yourSELF talking about it. Write out a plan or a “deck” for that business you always dreamed of starting.
What dream did you leave behind? Believe that it can happen and then just start moving toward it. Starting is magic. It turns imagination into reality.
Dr. Keith Ablow