The “Secret” of Pain-2-Power Coaching
I don’t want to make too much of it, but there is clearly an immeasurable dimension to the 1:1 coaching I am doing as part of the Pain-2-Power platform I developed. By that, I mean that the small tribe of individuals who I have joined forces with end up creating synergy with me that drives their momentum, but they also end up benefiting from the business relationships, creative partnerships and friendships I have developed over my 59 years of life. What’s more, they also end up connecting with other individuals I coach and finding all sorts of ways to advance one another’s goals.
That all sounds like forces described in the book, The Secret, which asserts that a law of attraction operates in our lives. When we decide to include someone in our circle, it isn’t by accident, but rather because a myriad of forces—including the intention to create that kind of inner circle—are operating.
One could argue, of course, that any group of a few dozen people is certain to have ways they are interrelated, in terms of agendas, connections and goals. One could argue that we are all a certain number of degrees separated from one another and that my contacts, therefore, would be potentially helpful to anyone. But it doesn’t feel like that’s what is happening.
No, it feels like I and those who contact me have calculated a myriad of variables unconsciously and thengotten in touch—for good reason. Because it seems a little too coincidental—no, a lot too coincidental—that we move forward as quickly as we do. So many of these 1:1 coaching relationships end up with lines of potential drawn between them.
Whatever is going on in the dimension of the immeasurable, I am enjoying it. I don’t really feel like I need to explain it. Nor am I surprised by it, any longer. I have come to expect it. That means that when a new client and I begin work I am already waiting to “come up with” the experiences I have had that can add perspective to the situation that person finds himself or herself in. And I am already waiting to “realize” who else I know who can move things further along for that individual. These things seem “bound to happen.”
Some of “bound to happen,” by the way is “letting it happen.” By that, I mean we can tend to resist the notion that forces outside us are operating day by day, hour by hour, minute by minute, to magnetize us to others. I don’t resist that notion at all, anymore. When I sign an agreement with a new client to help that person overcome adversity or build personal power or achieve success, I feel the wind at my back, a priori. If it weren’t, we’d never be signing that agreement, in the first place.
Who in your own life are you thinking of connecting with? Do it. Who have you thought about seeking counsel from? Don’t assume that’s a random idea. Who have you always wanted to partner with? Don’t think it can’t happen.
Anything is possible. And when you stop resisting your own immeasurable momentum, many things become probable.
Dr. Keith Ablow