LOVE YOUR FATE
This one isn’t easy. Love Your Fate. It’s translated from the Stoic saying, “Amor Fati.” So, what does it mean? Well, from the Pain-2-Power perspective it means that life is not random and that the painful chapters of your life story (or the story of your business or your family or your country) are actually opportunities to make you more powerful. It’s alchemy for the soul.
Here’s a stark example. Let’s say you were one of 500 warriors on a battlefield. Across the battlefield you see 10,000 warriors gathering to oppose you. Amor Fati or Love Your Fate would dictate that you don’t run, that you don’t resign yourself to your certain death, that you don’t even think that there is some chance you might somehow survive. Instead, you think, “God has set the stage for an incredible show of courage, at the least. At the most, He has set the stage for a miraculous victory. I LOVE THIS.”
Now, that’s a really difficult bar to clear, right? But you will have moments short of bloodshed on a battlefield to love your fate. Your business can’t seem to win over investors. Loving your fate might dictate that you celebrate the clear need to refocus, that you love the fact that you are going to have to find the one or two investors who see your vision as you do or even that you love the fact that you’re going to have to slim down the team and work twice as hard. Whatever it takes.
You can grieve the loss of a relationship or you can love it by dedicating yourself to win it back, by using the loss of it to reflect on yourSELF and emerge stronger or that you will find another relationship and apply all your love and learning to it, in the full expectation that good things will happen from the whole of the journey.
You can bemoan the loss of freedoms in America and the ascent of those who, deep down, hate this country, or you can love the fact that those who despise liberty are making themselves know and that a redoubling of effort on the part of citizens committed to autonomy and human rights will be needed—and will take place. What a great calling, after all—to be part of a time when every word you speak and every step you take in the direction of preserving what the Founding Fathers intended for this great land actually matters.
My favorite poem is in the same vein as Amor Fati. It is by Rainer Maria Rilke:
“Perhaps all the dragons in our lives are princesses who are only waiting to see us act, just once, with beauty and courage. Perhaps everything that frightens us is, in its deepest essence, something helpless that wants our love.”― Rainer Maria Rilke, Letters to a Young Poet
Amor Fati. Pain-2-Power. Onward.
Dr. Keith Ablow
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