Dr. Keith Ablow’s Blog

Keith’s blog is a collection of powerful insights to help you achieve emotional wellness and personal empowerment. To complement and expand on these insights check out the Pain-2-Power YouTube channel and Dr. Keith’s Pain-2-Power Podcast.

Who Have You Left Behind?

So many of us have people in our lives who, for one reason or another, we have “left behind.”  Some of these are people we valued, but with whom we simply lost touch, as we moved forward with our busy lives.  Some we had conflicts with, and “let things go,” even though they were people […]

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Who are You Deep Inside (Truly)? Part III

I’ve written before about the benefit of talking to yourSELF, in a structured way.  When you undertake this kind of communication, you give your core self a name—any name will do—and then you begin a dialogue of sorts with him or her.   Here’s an example: Core Chris:  No one listened to me.  I wanted to […]

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Who are You Deep Inside (Truly)? Part II

Many people worry that, deep inside, there’s nothing more of them than meets the eye.  They think the surface they project to others is the same as their core self.  Or they think that what existed of a core self has withered away. Nothing could be further from the truth.  The core self is eternal.  […]

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Who are You Deep Inside (Truly)? Part I

Knowing oneself is said to be the work of a lifetime, but there are ways to accelerate the process. First, let’s define our terms and the quest.  It happens to be the case that there is a core self and that there is a surface self.  The core self contains your truest interests, talents, capacity […]

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Perspective is Power

So many of us tend to get wrapped up in our day-to-day struggles, without realizing that the bindings tightening around our hearts and minds are ones we have put there, ourselves.  The pain is real, yet it is self-imposed.  And since it is self-imposed, slipping away from the bindings is possible. I’m speaking here about […]

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How Long Until You Heal After a Loss?

One of the questions I’m asked frequently by clients who have suffered through a loss—whether the breakup of a treasured relationship, the death of a friend or loved one, or a serious business reversal—is how long it will be before they “get past it” or “get over it.” Here’s the honest answer, which sounds defeatist […]

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The Trouble with Going Back Home

Going back home has a nice ring to it.  Most of us feel nostalgia for the places and people who populated the early years of our life stories.  This is true in such a vast percentage of people that it is clear it applies even to those who had complex, possibly very painful experiences with […]

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Editing Your Life Story—Or Any Other Story

Several years ago, about three months into our efforts to launch a new technology that allows not-for-profits to better understand their donors, my team and I realized that we were going to have to radically change our product and take a very different path to market.  I must have sighed loudly or grimaced or both, […]

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Be On the Lookout for These Moments

I have a single, simple message for you today:  I want you to be on the lookout for moments when you feel seen, heard, understood and, therefore, honored as a human being.  You might think that we humans know how to identify these moments and know to pause and honor them, but, too often, I […]

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AMOR FATI “Love Your Fate”

Amor Fati is a Latin phrase meaning, “Love Your Fate.”  The idea is that everything that happens in one’s life—the things that feel good and the things that don’t—are necessary to reach an ultimate and desirable endpoint.  They are pages and chapters of a book that will end, as it must, and end well. The […]

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