I don’t know anyone who hasn’t had to deal with losing something—and often in a very painful way. Here, I don’t mean losing loved ones to illness or losing one’s own health or youth. I mean sustaining losses when one has the suspicion or is certain that he or she fell short—in launching a business […]
Somehow, the idea of talking to yourself got a bad reputation as a sign of mental instability. Think of the television stereotype of the afflicted fellow mumbling to himself at the bus stop. But the truth is that talking to yourself—with intention—can be a very powerful way to fight anxiety and depression and set the […]
I like the Stoic philosophers a lot. One of the Stoic mantras that has been popularized of late (by author Ryan Holiday) comes from Marcus Aurelius, who said, “The obstacle is the way.” By that, the Roman emperor and philosopher was exhorting those who might be stymied by challenges to understand that those challenges represented […]
Many people have asked me whether there are parallels between God’s teachings and the fields of high-level life coaching like Pain-2-Power, psychiatry and psychology. I understand why the question would be raised. Psychiatry and psychology, in their late 20th and 21st century incarnations, have focused a great deal on defining the 300 or so disorders […]
In case you haven’t noticed (which would be an even worse situation than I think we’re in), Big Tech has come for you. Like, entirely. Google, Facebook (Meta), Twitter, Instagram, Apple, Microsoft, Verizon (yes, wireless carriers have been violating your privacy, pirating your data and selling it, too) and a host of other companies intend […]
Dieting is one of those times when talking to yourself is actually good. I’ve written about the power of self-dialogue before, but losing weight is one arena in which self-dialogue—something I call my SelfStrong technique—really stands out. What do I mean by self-dialogue? Well, we human beings tend to think that we have only one […]
Here’s your quick course on self-esteem . . . Ready? Okay . . . You are built to survive anything that doesn’t kill you. In fact, you have the innate capacity to turn all pain into power. If you believe that—and you should—then you should realize you are an amazing creation. How’s that for self-esteem? […]
On November 23, 1984, the day I turned 23-years-old, Doug Flutie, the diminutive quarterback for the Boston College Eagles, taught me a lesson that I never forgot. It was literally during the last second of the football game between the Eagles and their arch rival the Miami Hurricanes. Boston College was down 45-41. Boston College […]
Beginning in 2015, I began publishing a list of ways to improve your life. Last year I published, “Twenty-One Ways to Improve Your Life in 2021.” The year before that I published “Twenty Ways to Improve Your Life in 2020.” You get the idea. The tradition continues this year, with the addition of No. 22. […]
All human beings have to survive pages or chapters of their life stories that bring sadness, challenges to self-esteem or even questions about how to go on. No one gets through life without such events or phases, sometimes prolonged ones. How can these darker threads of life get woven into the fabric of our existences and still […]